Shloshim - The 30-day Mourning Period
Even though the Shiva (first seven days of mourning) has ended, one is considered a mourner for twelve months for a parent, and until theShloshim (the thirtieth day from burial) for other relatives. During these twenty-three days, the intensity of mourning is reduced. However, some restrictions continue to remain in effect. One should consult a competent rabbi for complete guidance in all of these matters.
Notable restrictions that are lifted:
Restrictions that carry over:
The Thirtieth Day
The Shloshim is the thirtieth day from burial. When mourning all relatives except one's parents, the mourning period concludes following the morning service on this day. When mourning parents, the mourning continues for a full twelve months, until the first.
Traditionally, families gather on the eve of the Shloshim to share support, recite prayers and, and to give charity in the merit of the deceased. Many will also make a Siyum, celebrating the completion of theMishnayot studied to merit the soul of the deceased, as well as a meal.
When Shloshim is Not Thirty Days
Sometimes Shloshim can be less than thirty days. This happens when a Jewish holiday occurs during Shiva and thus annuls the remaining days of Shiva mourning. One then calculates the Shloshim day as follows:
and : Fifteen days after the holiday ends.
: Eight days after the holiday ends.
: Between Rosh Hashana and one observes those days as one does between Shiva and Shloshim, then Yom Kippur annuls the remaining part of Shloshim.
Yom Kippur: Between Yom Kippur and Sukkot one observes those days as one does between Shiva and Shloshim, then Sukkot annuls the remaining part of Shloshim.
Also, if a Jewish holiday occurs between Shiva and Shloshim, it annuls the remaining days of Shloshim, and one conducts himself as if Shloshim is complete.
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